All transitions, and divorce is no exception, start with an ending and finish with a beginning. The closure of existing patterns, identities, arrangements, situations, assumptions, roles, narratives and the like. This middle phase, when the old is gone but the new isn’t fully operational, a limbo between the old sense of identity and the new, is daunting and scary.
Divorce is a transitional process to be honored, acknowledged, recognized and hallowed. As with all transitional processes (including marriage), the divorce process must start with an ending. That means a clear, defined and intentional closure of old/existing patterns, identities, arrangements, situations, assumptions, roles, narratives and the like. While seemingly daunting, it is this very time of transition which allows for innovation and self-actualization.
At MCJC, we work with families to provide closure of the old and an acknowledgement of the new. Together, we will contract a personalized Jewish divorce ceremony which incorporates both the heart and the mind. Through the Jewish divorce ceremony, both the individual’s and the community’s transition from a couple’s marriage to post-marriage status is formalized.
Please contact Rabbi Tom about having a meaningful, shame-free and personalized Jewish divorce ceremony, a Get, at firstname.lastname@example.org.